Stimulate: A Summit for Wives to Increase Spiritual, Relational, and Physical Stamina in Marriage.
Wives need spaces in community to be unashamed, to discover, and to grow together. We need spaces to talk about sex like our marriages depend on it.
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Wives will gain encouragement, solidarity, and skills to show up in marriage with confidence and endurance.
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We will talk about mother-in-law relationships, sexual addiction, pelvic floor health, goal setting, communication, finding confidence, and hope for hard situations.
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Our marriages impact our families, communities, and the generations that come after. We need to journey with other wives.
The Mother-in-law Dynamic
Mentor of wives, Lori Higashi, shares her wisdom from a season of being a mother-in-law. Honor, trust, vulnerability, and communication develop over time, not overnight. There is no perfect solution to achieving a good in-law relational bond; but there is hope for those who make an effort.
Goal Setting 101
Imagine the satisfaction of solving a marriage problem through consistently meeting your goal! Author and founder of HelloMornings.org, Kat Lee, leads us in a goal-setting 101 workshop. She shares essential components of goal setting, addressing our barriers and needs.
Naming Sexual Addiction
There will be couples who see a counselor for the issues surrounding sexual addiction within marriage, but many others will not. Linda Shevkenek, a MA licensed counselor from Canada, focuses on helping couples and individuals address sexual addiction. There is hope.
Pelvic Floor Health
Dr. Thao helps us understand how pelvic floor health essentials are the "foundation of the house," and affect intimacy in marriage. She talks about the social-emotional impacts of pelvic floor dysfunction and addresses how to begin talking about our individual issues, and exercises to use today.
Hope Is A Rebellion
Tiffa shares about real struggles and hard situations. She reminds us that our husbands are not mind readers, and reflects on the freedom that comes with embracing truth even when it is humiliating. She shares the transforming power of sisterhood when a marriage seems hopeless.
Career and Communication
Thriving in career and communication is a conversation that reminds us of the power of priorities and the trickle effect of trying new things. Kyra Santos, an independent consultant and Hawaii Air National Guard TSgt, foundational aspect of making decisions together.
Becoming Rule Breakers
Becoming rule breakers is a conversation about the gift of sex, the need for self-discovery, and the value of pleasure. Growing up a church girl who followed the rules, had a checklist of husband qualities, and "kissed dating goodbye," the first few years of marriage with sexual desires proved difficult.
Master of Ceremonies
Vicki is the Dean of Academic and Student Success (Pacific Rim Christian University) and a Chaplain (US Coast Guard Auxiliary). Her decades of teaching and ministry in education have empowered young girls, single women, and wives to thrive as they grow in capacity and courage.
Stimulate Summit Host
Sabeth started Stimulate Summit to invite others into the pivotal conversations with mentors, friends, and colleagues who have sustained her in relationships. She values genuine conversations grounded in truth, vulnerability, courage, and trust. You are not alone. You will always be invited back here.
Frequently Asked Questions:
How much does it cost?
Early Bird All Access Registration
$327 - Individual Pass ($170 Savings)
$597 - 2 Person Bundle ($350 Savings)
$1,357 - 5 Person Group Bundle ($880 Savings)
Standard All Access Registration
$497 - Individual Pass
$947 - 2 Person Bundle ($47 savings)
$2,237 - 5 Person Group Bundle ($248 Savings)
Are scholarships available?
I truly believe we need to start these conversations together. I believe in it so much that I will give a full scholarship All-Access Pass for each paid registrant as a gift for someone else to attend. I will send these codes to the person who made the purchase for them to distribute.
- A purchase of an Individual Pass will equal two attendees, one paid and one scholarshipped.
- A purchase of a Two Person Bundle could equal up to four attendees, two paid and two scholarshipped.
- A purchase of a Five Person Bundle could equal up to 10 attendees, five paid and five scholarshipped.
You can journey with a partner or you can journey with a tribe; the choice is yours, but let’s journey together.
What do I get with the All Access Pass?
- Access to summit interviews
- Interactive and printable worksheets and resource lists
- Live follow-up interviews with select Summit speakers
- Access to the private Facebook group for summit attendees
- Bonus sessions
- 1:1 follow-up sessions with Sabeth Kapahu on the summit topic of your choice
(signed consent forms required for 1:1 follow-up sessions)
Can I purchase individual sessions?
Yes! After the day of the summit individual sessions will be available to purchase for $200 a session. You can purchase select individual sessions with the summit workbook and resource sheets included. You will also have access to the private summit facebook group. *Note: All Access Pass options include all of the sessions.
I am not married, can I still attend?
You don’t have to be married or even a woman to attend. While these sessions were crafted with marriage and wifehood in mind, the Summit will benefit anyone who plans to be in an intimate relationship. Beginning brave conversations can save all of us from the overwhelming odds of relationships. Learning, sharing, and reaching out makes all the difference when we are building intimate bonds.
What if I can’t watch on Sunday March 27th?
Your registration gives you access to the summit content at your convenience. Replay your favorite sessions over and over again. Return to the conversations when you need specific encouragement in your season.
How long is each interview?
Interview lengths range from 30-50 minutes long.
Is the summit live?
For a stress-free experience, all sessions are pre-recorded to watch at your convenience.
Can I watch from any device?
Yes! Log-in to the summit from any device with the same viewing capabilities across devices.
Is there an app?
Yes! Download the teachable app and login to access Stimulate Summit through the app.
Can I share the content with other people?
Please do not share the content with others unless you purchased a group bundle and are a part of your group.
Can I watch with a group?
Yes! If you purchased a group bundle gather your people together and host a watch party! Please be mindful to follow your, local, and state guidelines for safe in-person gatherings.
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Hope Is A Rebellion with Tiffa Garza
PASTOR, SINGER/SONGWRITER, TEACHER
“He should know!” Sixteen years into marriage, Tiffa shares about real struggles and hard situations. She reminds us that our husbands are not mind readers and reflects on the freedom that comes with embracing the truth that he doesn't know unless we’ve told him. Have we told him that our needs aren’t being met, or have we just used non-verbal cues and expected him to figure it out? Are we exploding in anger before we’ve ever expressed that there is a problem? There is solidarity in this conversation for wives in all seasons. Tiffa shares the transforming power of sisterhood when a marriage feels hopeless, the humiliating transformation that comes with Godly rebuke, and how asking for help can change the future. Her vulnerability will spark conversation that we’ve been waiting to have but didn’t know if it was safe enough. She paves the way for the sisterhood of Stimulate Summit attendees.
SPEAKER BIO:
Tiffa and her husband Imua have 3 children, Zeo, Zemmy and Zander. She teaches at Pacific Rim Christian University. She is a pastor, preacher and worship leader at C4 Community Church in Honolulu. Tiffa has a strong desire to raise generations to worship and love Jesus and to know Him with strength and joy. She’s passionate about playing guitar, writing songs and serving her church and community.
Unmasking The Mother-In-Law Dynamic with Lori Higashi
MENTOR, LEADER, MOTHER-IN-LAW, EXECUTIVE ASSISTANT
Mentor to wives worldwide, Lori Higashi shares her wisdom from a season of being a Mother-in-law. Honor, trust, vulnerability, and communication develop overtime, not overnight. There is no perfect solution to achieving a good in-law relational bond, but there is hope for those who make an effort. When you said “I do” and committed “until death do you part,” you didn’t just get a husband; you got his family too. Unmasking the mother-in-law dynamic is a conversation surrounding the hard work and intentionality required to learn new roles together. Mothers-in-law incur stereotypical expectations and judgemental perspectives, but rarely do they receive praise for the courage of stepping into a new life season after the wedding. The effort of building bridges between two families, combining years of traditions, and forming a brand new family begins with an honest look inward. There will be trial and error. There will be hurt feelings that need forgiveness. There will be mistakes that need grace. There is no handbook for being a mother-in-law or daughter-in-law, but there is solidarity with those who share the journey together. This session will help you begin to see the potential of a powerful lifelong mother-in-law relationship.
SPEAKER BIO:
Lori and her husband Guy have four adult children, six grandchildren, and a golden doodle. She mentors women worldwide, a church planter and executive assistant to Wayne Cordiero. She’s passionate about helping others navigate life with truth and hope. She encourages wives to build foundations by asking hard questions and empowering them to step into their individual calling. She serves wives through Pure Desire Ministries, mentors women through the Ignite Program at New Hope Christian College, and volunteers at New Hope West in Eugene, OR. She loves to visit her kids and grandkids who are spread out from Hawaii to Colorado, pass down family recipes as she prepares feasts, and gather ohana from all around the world to do life together.
Goal Setting 101 with Kat Lee
AUTHOR & FOUNDER OF HELLOMORNINGS.ORG
Author and founder of HelloMornings.org, Kat Lee, leads us in a goal-setting 101 workshop. She has helped thousands of women worldwide build grace-filled, life-giving morning routines. Now attendees of Stimulate get to learn from her how to set goals that stick. We can have the best intentions, but they will remain good ideas if we don't plan to execute those intentions. Kat boils down goal setting to it’s essential components. What are we trying to accomplish in marriage's spiritual, relational, and physical aspects? Kat walks us through understanding the goal vs. the problem. She gives examples of common goals to explain the process of solving problems and being consistent. Goals don’t motivate us as much as solving a problem does. If we are going to set S.M.A.R.T. goals for our marriage, we need to begin with an honest reflection of the season and status of our spiritual, relational, physical lives as wives. Kat shares how breaking down the process into small amounts of time makes it possible to achieve our goals. Imagine the satisfaction of solving a problem that impacts you and your husband through consistency. She will address the barriers we face and teach us how to set ourselves up for success through accountability.
SPEAKER BIO:
Kat Lee is passionate about teaching others how to jump-start each day with a grace-filled, life-giving morning routine. She is the author of the Hello Mornings book (published by Thomas Nelson), a speaker, podcaster, and the founder of HelloMornings.org. With their three children, she and her husband, Jimmy, live in Waco, Texas.
Addressing Sexual Addiction with Linda Shevkenek, MA
LICENSED COUNSELOR, EMDR SPECIALIST
There will be couples who see a counselor for the issues surrounding sexual addiction within marriage, but many other couples will not. Linda Shevkenek, an MA licensed counselor from Canada, has focused the last decade of her practice on helping couples and individuals address sexual addiction. From the safety and convenience of personal viewing space, this conversation will give words to wives preparing for brave conversations addressing sexual addiction. Linda explains the arousal template. Understanding of this often brings relief to couples who have misplaced their blame and shame. Sexual addiction is not particular to gender, religion, culture, or status. It usually begins early in life and, if not addressed, causes devastating results throughout adulthood. She shares the real work of crisis management and building back bridges of trust. She talks about what a lifetime of hiding does to a person's heart, mind, and soul, explaining how brain chemistry and bio neuro- pathways shape our habits, fears, and conversations. Addressing suspicious behavior, gaslighting, and trying to control a situation are realities addressed in this conversation as well. Betrayal, pain, fear, and shame are real parts of the journey. But there is also space for courage, restoration and freedom. There is nothing easy about addressing sexual addiction, but there is hope when we make space to begin the conversations towards help, health, and wholeness.
SPEAKER BIO:
Linda has been a licensed counselor in Canada for over two decades and started working at There is Hope Counseling Center Kelowna, British Columbia in 2006. She is a trained EMDR specialist and, in the last decade, has focused on helping couples and individuals address sexual addiction. She is a mother, grandmother, and wife who lost her husband to cancer in 2009. She staffs the YWAM school of counseling at University of the Nations in Kona, HI, and churches and counseling centers in Canada.
Understanding Pelvic Floor Health with Dr. Thao
PHYSICAL THERAPIST, PT, DPT
Serving as the “foundation” of the house, our pelvic floor encompasses a sling of muscles and connective tissues. It essentially supports our organs, including bladder, intestines, sexual reproductive organs, and fallopian tube, maintaining control of bowel and bladder movements. If anything goes wrong with the foundation, the entire house (body) is impacted. Dr. Thao helps us understand the essentials of pelvic floor health for wives (and husbands), especially regarding intimacy in marriage. She talks about the social-emotional impacts of pelvic floor dysfunction on individuals age 5 to 85. She addresses how to begin a conversation with a primary care practitioner and how to know if pelvic floor therapy with a physical therapist is a good treatment option. What happens when we begin brave conversations with women about what’s really happening with our bodies? The trickle effect creates freedom to journey together through the dysfunction toward healing and wholeness.
SPEAKER BIO:
Thao and her husband Alex are new parents to their son Sage. They live in the greater Seattle area, where she practices as a Doctor of Physical Therapy. Thao’s passion is to help others improve their quality of life and build a healthy, active lifestyle by reaching their wellness and fitness goals. She earned her Doctorate in Physical Therapy at the University of St. Augustine in 2016. Thao’s therapeutic interests include pelvic floor health, rehabilitation, advocacy, and education. Thao volunteers with a non-profit medical group providing physical therapy care in Vietnam. When she isn’t working or volunteering, you can find her outdoor running, climbing, hiking, or free diving.
Becoming Rule Breakers with Shaina Weisgerber
WRITER, TEACHER , SPEAKER, CREATIVE
Becoming rule breakers is a conversation about the gift of sex, the need for self-discovery, and the value of pleasure. Growing up as a church girl who followed the rules, made a checklist of ideal husband qualities, and kissed dating goodbye the first few years of marriage with sexual desires, expectations, and failures proved to be messy season. There are times we enter with nothing left to give, but we still step inside. Something powerful and unifying happens when we enter the bedroom naked and unashamed. We choose to show up because we’ve committed to fight back the darkness of fear, shame, and division. This conversation addresses the mental capacity needed to accept ourselves as wives desired by our husbands. Becoming rule breakers is a choice to reimagine the rules we used to keep and develop an understanding of sexual desire that serves those who will follow in our footsteps as wives. It is the beginning of a conversation leading to liberation in sensuality, and enjoying sex in marriage for what it can be.
SPEAKER BIO:
Shaina Weisgerber is a Texas girl, born and raised. Writer, teacher, speaker and creative she lives for the wide open spaces. She loves spending time with her husband, Nick, and their two girls and creating things. Whether it's crafts at the table with her girls, creating content for Sycamore and Sparrow, or dreaming up ways to encourage others through WeisCoaching. Together, Nick and Shaina own WeisCoach, a financial coaching business. Nick is a certified Ramsey Financial Coach. Their heart is to see people, marriages, families and households find financial peace and responsibility.
Career and Communication with Kyra Santos
INDEPENDENT CONSULTANT, TSgt HAWAII AIR NATIONAL GUARD
Thriving in career and communication is a conversation that reminds us of the power of priorities and the trickle effect of trying new things. For Kyra Santos, an independent consultant and TSgt Hawaii Air National Guard, making decisions together with her husband is a foundational aspect of marriage. Starting their careers together while still dating created a unique level of discipline and ownership needed for marriage. Life was busy from the get-go. She reminds us that doing life together as partners requires maturing communication skills. The way we communicate is the key to surviving career pivots, growing families, and selfish impulses. Addressing spending habits took courage, and talking openly about accountability with finances required practice. Physical needs change with each transition, but commitment to getting it done and sticking to non-negotiables keeps the fire alive.
SPEAKER BIO:
Kyra Santos a Tech Sergeant in the Hawaii Air National Guard, and the CEO of Shine With Aloha. She started her career with the Air National Guard in 2002 shortly before marrying her high school sweetheart Larry. 15 years later they have three sons, two organizations, and a thriving community of support. She’s passionate about lighting a spark in others to pursue their passions and grow in self-confidence. When she’s not leading a team at work, building her business, or being mom, she serves with her husband at Ukulele Project Hawaii, teaching ukulele and impacting the community throughout Oahu and beyond.